You, then Us

You, then Us

When we’re irritated, annoyed, or angry with someone, it’s natural to start with them.

What did they do? What did they say? What did they mean?

That instinct keeps us stationary. Why? Because we can’t change another person on command.

Our human experience begins where it always begins: on our Pathway.

Each of us walks our own Pathway. All experience passes through it first. If we try to start on someone else’s Pathway, it’s like marching into a brick wall. You can’t walk for them. And when we’re at odds, there often isn’t space yet to create something new together.

So what do we do?

Start with your Pathway. Then meet to create something new—together.

Beginning with you isn’t about blame—it’s about orientation. When you orient, your footing returns. From there, “Us” becomes possible.